Tag: Friendship and Love



Ever wondered- how many kisses it takes to melt a heart of stone?..how many tears before a river flows?!..how many heartaches before eternal bliss, or how many loves (or things that look like it) before THE ONE?…

If any numbers are important, these are…but believe you me, there arent even credible proximate guesses, much less accurate answers to these…

Another question: A deterministic world view would have us believe, "It’s destiny! All’s pre-determined". Why then the pain, the angst, the living hell of going through relationships that would seem ‘oh-so-right’ at the outset, only to be transcribed inexplicably as ‘not meant-to-bes’, six months down the line? Some would say, experience enriches you, makes you more aware of what you want and more importantly, what you absolutely do not? But again, cant self-awareness precede mistakes? Does learning necessarily come the hard way-through falling and failing? And if that’s indeed the way of it, why is it like that?

It’s said that all humans are blessed with Intuition- and a certain level of consciousness has all the answers, knows all you need to know. You need to get attuned to that level, ask for guidance and trust,   it’ll take you where you want to go. If that really is the case, why do we not have a clear sense of perspective? What does it take to get in touch with that level of consciousness?

Questions? questions?? Why so many of them?? And worse, why, no plausible answers???

To love or not to love

To love or not to love

Love is blind is a maxim that is perhaps as old as love itself, and if you’re like me, then you have, at some time or the other, wondered about that one. Well, it’s time to stop wondering, because a group of researchers have actually found that the old adage is not an empty cliche. A report on the BBC News website says that scientists have found that feelings of love lead to a “suppression of activity in the areas of the brain controlling critical thought”. Simply put, this means that when in love, the heart takes over the central command and the brain is relegated to playing the second fiddle. So, in effect, the heart deviates from its defined function of pumping blood and begins to order the brain around. On second thoughts, going by what the scientists have discovered about the brain’s digression, love might not just be blind but also deaf and dumb. Does that mean that when you fall in love, you become handicapped? Perhaps that’s where the term “lovesick” came from.

That love is blind might also explain the universal truth of “opposites attract”. Although the latter is supposed to describe the behaviour of magnetic substances, the phrase is commonly used to describe seemingly inexplicable human behaviour: The most beautiful girl always falls for the most ordinary looking boy. The fairest guy marries the darkest girl (in this case, we can’t say whether love is blind but it is positively colour-blind). And how can we forget the age-old, run-to-death love story of a rich-boy falling for poor girl or vice versa?

So science has proved that love makes you weaker in the brain. Does that mean we must stop loving? Of course not! Personally I think love is cool. Granted that according to research love subdues certain functions of the brain, but while doing so, it enriches the soul. And soul is all there is to life. What will you do with a brain without the soul? In fact, come to think of it, geniuses have always known the importance of love. Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart, one of the greatest music composers of all time and a genius in his own right, once said, “Neither a lofty degree of intelligence nor imagination nor both together go to the making of genius. Love, love, love, that is the soul of genius.” There.

“What about those disasters?” I hear you asking. Well, the truth is that those disasters are probably the result of the brain interfering in matters that are more to suited to the heart. Analyse love, and it will die, crippling you in the process. Leave love alone, and it will not only survive, it will flourish.

The Joys of Friendship

The Joys of Friendship

Friendship, it is said, is like a violin; the music may stop now and then, but the strings will last forever. This truth of this statement is reflected in what happened last week in a small apartment in Thane’s Bhaskar Colony.  

Last week, when Pallavi Phansalkar from Thane won the gold medal for topping the M. Com examination at the University of Mumbai, she least expected the manner in which her achievement will be celebrated.

Suresh Phansalkar, Pallavi’s father has a group of friends who completed their B.Sc together. He and six others graduated in 1970 from Jhunjunwala College in Ghatkopar and have remained friends ever since, meeting regularly with their spouses and family.

On hearing the news of her feat, one of her father friend’s Ninad Srikrishna Athalye, decided to surprise her by organising a visit to her house along with all her father’s friends. On Saturday evening, six of her father’s friends and their wives paid a surprise visit to Devdutt Society in Bhaskar Colony, where the Phalsankar’s stay and and performed a private felicitation followed by celebrations. Time has only strengthened the bond between these friends, who find joy in the each other’s happiness and that of their families.

Pallavi, who was a student of MCC, secured 76 per cent in her M Com examinations. "Pallavi was always good in studies, but topping the University is no mean achievement. We thought we should celebrate this occasion by doing something different. After all, she is as much a part of our family," said Athalye, who runs a chemical business in Thane.

On Saturday Pallavi must have learnt a few lessons in true friendship from her father’s friends, which only reemphasises what writer Douglas Pagels said, "A friend is one of the nicest things you can have, and one of the best things you can be."

Circle of Friends

Circle of Friends

In my opinion, friends are like diamonds, because just like diamonds, friends are forever too. Take for instance friends of Ashok Sathe, the well known Marathi stage, TV and film artist. Sathe turned sixty on March 10, 2002 and his friends (most of who started their career with him) celebrated the occasion in an unusual style.

Sathe’s friends wanted to use the occasion for a meaningful activity. So they organized a public programme at Sahyog Mandir wherein they held a discussion forum on the topic "Spardhechya Disha aani Dasha". S.N. Navare (another well-known Marathi celebrity) presided as Chief Guest. The other panelists were Kamlakar Sontake, Vishwas Mehandale, Bappu Limaye, Ramesh Choudhary, all of who represent the Marathi Entertainment Industry at various levels.

It was a particularly interesting discussion as it revealed the darker shades of state-level theatre competition. There was universal agreement on the suggestion that competitions cause most artists, directors and producers to become extremely result-oriented with just one objective in mind when conceiving a play or performing a role – that of impressing the judges. Critical factors such as a good script, proper lighting effects etc. are ignored in the quest for awards. As a result of these developments, the scope for experimentation with uncommon ideas and concepts is greatly narrowed down.

The panel of senior artists appealed to the Maharashtra Government to address the situation and pledged support to the steps initiated in this direction.

Thanks to Sathe’s friends, the audience, comprising of some two hundred theatre enthusiasts, enjoyed what was perhaps one of the most unusual birthday celebrations.

Cultural Designs
Thane’s Milind Kulkarni has introduced an exclusive range of tee-shirts, which are available not at garment outlets, but at bookstores. A graphic designer by profession, Kulkarni feels that the uniqueness of his tee-shirts would be lost if they were displayed along with other garments – which is why he wants to avoid selling them through the regular channel.

And what makes Kulkarni’s tee-shirts unique? It is his vision of spreading the richness of Marathi culture and literature through his tee-shirts, which are sold under the brand name of Paridhaan. Each tee-shirt is painted with unique words from the world of Marathi culture – famous film dialogues, nursery rhymes, names of popular plays etc.

For instance, one design carries the words "ye re ye re pavasa", the favourite Marathi nursery rhyme while another one displays the words "preeye paha", from the popular Marathi play "Sanget Saubhadra". According to Kulkarni, "a true lover of Marathi literature and culture will take pride in sporting one of his tee-shirts."

Kulkarni’s efforts have already begun showing encouraging results. His concept of Marathi designer tee-shirts has been appreciated by prominent Marathi personalities such as Vasundhara Pendse Naik (President of Akhil Bharatiya Marathi Sahitya Parishad) and renowned Marathi writer Ratnakar Matkari.

Kulkarni’s target is not restricted to only Marathi-speaking public. In fact his ultimate objective is to sell his tee-shirts to foreigners. According to him, the art of fashion carries a universal appeal and this means that all fashion-conscious individuals are his prospects. To substantiate this, he gives an example, "Many Indians wear tee-shirts that sport messages in various foreign languages like German, French and even Japanese. They may not comprehend the message, but they pick up the tee-shirt for its aesthetic value."